When faced with the choice of life, we all want to choose the shortest path and get the fastest happiness. However, Chen Hao said with a loud voice: "This is a classic misconception about a happy life."
Very early on, I read a book called Henry VIII and His Six Wives. Did not understand at the time, when he killed his first wife, why did women still marry him?
Now I don't ask this kind of question – he killed a wife, and behind him there will be many women who line themselves up with pillows. Because he is Henry VIII, marry him, he is the queen, and his own children can Inherit the throne. After all, this is the shortest path – although from the results, it is the shortest way to death, but before the end of the final results, many women will think this is the shortest path to happiness?
Each of us wants to find a shortcut to the top of the mountain, just as everyone buys and sells in the stock market to make money, not to lose everything. If someone tells us in advance that a certain stock is a junk stock, we will definitely not buy it easily. Similarly, if a stock that is rising rapidly rises to a very high level, we will still try to buy it. Thought it will rise. Life is full of so many uncertainties – there are ways. It looks easy and flat, but once you get on the road, it means no return.
A girlfriend was in love, and we said that men in the world did not die again, and that your boyfriend is also very general, and quickly find a better supplement. So we pushed all of the "drilled" people we know to her, because this is a shortcut – among the millions of men who have succeeded and succeeded, only one needs to say "Yes" to her. That is her life. Happiness is on hand. Is this difficult? In theory, it is not difficult. She is beautiful, young, simple, and very gentle and versatile. Shouldn’t it be difficult? However, it has been waiting for a long time – not without the pursuit of her, but always talking about marrying the marriage, those men who she liked, but he retired. Nor was there no man willing to marry her, but she was not satisfied with the men who were willing to marry her—because they were clearly a road that was too far away, and she said, how much to suffer from them in order to enjoy the joy of harvest?
Love Agatha Christie's story. She was born in 1890. At that time, most of the women had no work, especially noble women. Unfortunately, Agatha was not so good. She fell in love with a poor man who did not have much money, married him and gave him a lovely daughter. They have shared the same bitterness and hardships as they used to have quite a bit of hardship. Later, men made their fortune, they bought a big house, and only cars owned by rich people. Then, the man fell in love with another woman. Agatha’s youngest daughter said to her mother, “Father loves me. He just doesn't like you.” Agatha was hurt, but she admitted that her daughter was right.
She waited for a year and looked forward to her husband's change of heart. Of course, her expectations failed. So she agreed to divorce. She said: "There is nothing to be worried about, and the rest is to plan for myself." She planned for herself very well, not only known to write mysterious murders, but also to marry younger than her own 14 years old. The archeologist – she met him at the age of 39 at the age of 39. People advised her not to accept the young man's love. She replied, "Why not? He loves archaeology, so I don't have to be afraid to grow old – I The older he is, the more he loves me."
This is indeed the case. She lived to be very old. She was interviewed by the Queen and she was no longer required to worry about money, fame, honor, status, and love. It seems that she has come a long way – writing detective stories. Before her, no woman has succeeded by writing detective stories.
I would like to say that some roads look very short and actually it's hard to get up; some roads look hard, but actually they go further and wider. However, if it is not pushed to the edge of the cliff, who will be willing to jump? Even jumping may be a better world. People, especially women, always like to be comfortable, like to be restless, and like to get it all without any effort. Many times, we do not envy those Olympic champions. We think they are too bitter. We can't afford those hardships. We always say that it is better to do better than we do. In fact, this is one of the most classic misconceptions about a happy life.
Many seemingly short roads are in fact the most difficult and impossible. They are just as easy to look at as if they are only one step away from success, but across that step, not only luck is needed. Therefore, it's better to clench your teeth and treat your life as a long journey. Perhaps, when we finally reach the culmination of the glory, we will find that there are beautiful landscapes everywhere. We do not need to fight, who we please, and who we are. Everything that has been wanted. Just like Isadora Duncan said after becoming famous, “I have to thank God because when we were young, my mother was very poor. I couldn’t afford to be a servant and I couldn’t afford a tutor. Because of this, I was able to be natural. He grew up in a healthy manner.” In my understanding of natural health, she understands that no matter how life treats her, she always strives for her own hope. Even if she hopes to fail and suffer, she is still full of confidence. This makes her a unique person. And even today is still shining – I think, she also thought about taking shortcuts, right? But in fact, she chose a road that looks even harder, and thus got more and more rich love, with a richer and more legendary life.
Therefore, if we are unfortunately not born in the wealthy, unfortunately we do not have the beauty and the wealth but we are still young, then we are not really miserable. There are many happy women in the world, but they are never young and beautiful. A woman’s real misfortune is not that they did not find a shortcut to happiness, but they thought they had found it, but they found out after a lifetime that it was the furthest road and did not lead anywhere… …
(Text / Chen Yan)