universe is boundless, the world is changing every hour and moment is in the interpretation of Knowledge is infinite., mountain, and people beyond the strength change law. Thus, there is jealousy between people and people. “Such as” peer enemy “, Scholars scorn each other.” it is this phenomenon of interpretation.
jealousy is a kind of inherent psychological instinct. When people have similar life background, educational background and social background, they are prone to have the same level of logic thinking that they must have equal potential and equal achievements. The reality is not the case.
we often see others because of appearance, talent, family, honor, status and other factors are higher than their own advantage when agitated, complaining, even the heart of jealousy, with a catchphrase, called “envy envy hate”. Envy: to see others have some special advantages or benefits, also want to own; jealousy: talent, reputation, status or circumstances than their own good people, resentment; hate: hostility, hostility. This is a gradual process. Instead, jealousy can be divided into two kinds of malignant and benign envy envy.
a broad-minded and self aware person will rationally control his emotions, reflect on his shortcomings or gaps from others’ excellence, and use it as a driving force to improve himself, and add a sense of self respect and self reliance to his life picture. This is a good jealousy, which is good for people. From another point of view, benign jealousy can promote good competition and promote social progress.
people who are narrow minded and lost themselves often judge objective facts by subjective assumptions. He saw only the halo on the head of others, but he could not see the effort of others. So, he blindly being fair, hate God does not help, the heart always has a life difficult for the Hom: I was behind him? In this way, it disrupts his mind, frustrates his own will, and may do extremes to hurt others. This is a vicious jealousy, which is bad for people.
the man who is jealous is pitiful, because he is also hurting himself while jealous of others. His heart has long been in the darkness of anxiety, suspicion, inferiority, resentment, and hostility, without sunshine, and no spiritual happiness. Even worse, mental illness can lead to physical illness, and physical illness can make all things zero. It’s really not worth it. The ancients said: “for
, rather than retreat webs.” When we extend to all the other people’s conditions that are better than ourselves, we should take the attitude that we should be serious about ourselves rather than envy and hate others.
so, how do you manage yourself?
1. Read a good book. Whether it’s a paper book or an e-book, you should read it.
the book embodies the wisdom and thoughts of the predecessors, we can get the nutrition from life and strength, thus establishing their own life goals, make their own efforts direction, there is a path in the way of life, broaden their horizons, broaden the mind, learn to reflect on, no longer entangled in a jealous person, but is committed to enhance their ability. Live a happy, true to yourself. In two,
met in the long and short for example.
, they may be your elders. They may be your peers or your younger generation. Different people have different strengths, different work experience and life experience. Learning from other people’s strengths and learning from other people’s experiences will help you to mature and improve your ability to work.
three, find the right location for yourself in the world. In the face of interpersonal relationship,
should learn to communicate, learn to think in transposition, learn to tolerate, and learn to do things.
in the face of their own growth, to learn Thanksgiving, learn humility, learn tolerance, learn to fear. We should be good at discovering the true self, and be brave to accept setbacks and failures.
first, it is necessary to know that the nature given to us is not the same, and that the difference between people and people is normal.
I used to talk to the general manager of a car loan company. He talked about the problem of employees getting in and out of the job.
I said, “the welfare of your company is so good, is it foolish to go out?”
“people who go out are not silly, and the people left are not silly, but their interests are different and their careers are different.” He said with a smile.
‘s ability to look at the problem is enough to prove his understanding. More than 10 years ago, he entered the industry, because he enjoyed his work and enjoyed his work. Because he had his position in today’s position because he insisted on coordinating with his abilities.
the general manager experience can give us such a revelation: we are in pursuit of goals in the process, not only have the struggle spirit, but also to find their own strengths and weaknesses of the wise one I good at is what, for what? What is my short board, what is it not easy to do? In the workplace, we can make good use of the strengths and weaknesses, give full play to the potential of their own advantages, and work efficiently with half the effort.
second, in the struggle of life, people always encounter better opponents than they are. At this point, you should tell yourself: do not envy other people’s good luck, because you don’t know how many people past repair, the plot of the number of German; you don’t know how many people do this unknown, only heaven knows the good; you do not know someone in order to pursue a dream, has experienced many difficulties and hardships. To understand these, you will not be jealous of fire, but according to their goals forward.
finally, in frustration and after the attack, please don’t complain about their talents, don’t sigh their Born Under A Bad Sign. The rough road of life, who has fallen into the valley of the pain, and more than once. As long as you stick to your goals, do not be discouraged, do not give up, intentnesses to Benz forward, identifytalent Bole will find you, good luck will be with you accidentaly across.
‘s life is long, short and short. It’s just full of frustrations and thorns. It’s full of unknown things that we can’t predict. So we should have our own vision for every stage. In the early days of the
, the family elders, the school teachers would have a greater impact on themselves, but ultimately decided that their own life was still themselves.
prime not to – day difficult morning. Adolescence is the best time to learn knowledge and accumulate life experience. Please don’t indulge in beer and skittles, nor compare with others. Instead, you should grasp your strength and strive to get the wonderful life.